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A book for talking to parents about private body parts.
Hi, I’m cath HakanCathson and welcome to Sex Ed Rescue. Sex Ed Rescue is where I help parents to find a better and an easier way to talk to their kids about sex. And it’s where I get to review lots of books and I’m actually I’m not really reviewing my book of course, I think gets wonderful, but I just want to tell you about it. So this is, at the time of recording, is my newest book. Probably my favourite because green is my favourite colour and it’s got a green cover.
But anyway, the content inside is pretty good as well. It’s called the Parents Guide to Private Body Parts. How to talk to your child about their whole body. So this book is basically about how to talk to kids about penises and vulvas and vaginas. This used to be a PDF, how to Talk to Kids about Bodies, which I wrote a couple of years ago and it sells really well, but parents keep asking me extra questions, so I pulled together all those extra questions and threw them into this book.
So it basically has anything and everything that you want to know about the genitals that you should be talking about with kids. So what I do with my books is I will never write one book on how to do sex education because I don’t believe it can fit into one book. I help parents who need more than just talk to them about bodies and it’s like, well, what do I say? How do I say it? They’re the sort of books that I say I’ll give you a lot more detail and hold your hand and walk you through the conversation.
So that’s what I love about this book. It’s because it is a really detailed, deep dive into talking about bodies. So the index or the contents on this book is a lot more detailed than what I normally have in books. And that’s because I want it to be easy for you to be able to find stuff. So what it is, is I have broken it down into.
So it starts off with why do you need to talk about these things? It’s just like, well, why do I need to talk to them about their genitals? And there’s lots of really good reasons as to why I’m talking about. Then I’m just answering some questions about it, showing you how to talk in a more inclusive way and why you might want to talk that way. What to say instead of boys or girls.
What to do if you’ve already told your kids that boys have a penis, all boys have a penis and all girls have a vulva. So there’s some information in there about how to be more inclusive and why this might matter. And I put a realistic, practical, I guess, spin on it as well because at the end of the day, we live in the real world, the names of different body parts. So I’ll just show you inside there. I have got lots of diagrams, so all the diagrams are in there and they’re all labelled in there as well of naming the different body parts of what they all are.
So that’s the internal anatomy and the external. I’ve also got a guide to language, so when do you need to teach them what the clitoris is? That sort of stuff. And then I also talk about whether you can use slang names and then if you do, how to use them as well, and then how to talk about the different functions. Got some info in there on how to get more comfortable because sometimes vagina vulva, these might have been words you got in trouble with as a child, and saying them might be really uncomfortable.
So I talk with you about how to get more comfortable with that. And then I’ve got all the questions you might have about genitals. So what a private part? How do I talk about what’s private, what’s not? Why do you call it the bottom or buttocks instead of anus Volvo or vagina?
Which do I use? I’ve also got in there about testicles or scrotum slang. Talk about vaginal discharge, because as kids get older with the vagina, they start to think they’re wetting themselves, but it’s actually vaginal discharge. I answer your questions in there about erection, circumcision, anything you want to know about. Foreskins is in there as well.
Smegma. Smegma pearls, which is something you may never have heard of. What else have I got? Pearly penile papules. Because as kids, teens get a lot older, they notice that they’ve got these little bumps under there, so that’s in there as well.
Masturbations in there and also holding the genitals and hands down the pants as well. And the changes that happen during puberty as well. I’ve also got in there, and this is something that makes this book a little different. It’s the first time I’ve done this. I’ve put in rules as well, so rules that you might have about the private parts.
And I’ve got six rules in there that you might want to talk about as well. Then we get into how to talk to the different kids. And I’ve broken it down into age groups. Rather than one year old, two year old, I’ve got zero to two, three to five, six to eight, nine to eleven. I think I stopped it at eleven.
No, I took it up to 14. Okay, sorry. Wrote this book a few months ago. Books take a long time, so it’s been with the editor for a while. So once you get to the age specific stuff, that’s where we talk about naming the private parts, how to incorporate these words into your everyday life, to break that cycle of shame diversity in generals, which is something we do need to talk about with kids.
Because a lot of tweens are turning to the Internet to find out about how penises look. Erections is in there holding the genitals, hygiene, masturbation, nudity, puberty. And as they get older and younger, there’s some different topics in there as well.
Yeah, so that basically is that book. At the start. There are quite a few illustrations to go with the foreskin sections. So I’ve got different pictures that will help illustrate different parts of the conversation that you might want to have. So that is basically that book.
I’m really pleased with it because what I do is I always start books off as, like, a printable festival. I test it with parents. I get their questions, I get their feedback. I go, what would make this better? What would make it help you with your conversations?
And all of that are then pulled together and thrown into this? I was shocked. I think there’s about 50,000 words. I started off with 60, but the editor streamlined it so that it would be a bit easier for you to tackle. So it’s a decent size book, but basically it has anything and everything to do with the genitals and talking to our kids about it.
Okay, I hope that’s helpful. Cheers.